Moving or switching schools are two transient stresses that are common for families living internationally. A recent crisis that almost every family faced was the coronavirus pandemic. Everyone was under a lot of stress as a result of the COVID-19 outbreak, especially the parents. They had to take care of both their own and their children’s health. Everyone was agitated and irritated during the lockdown. There were many fears due to the uncertainty of what would happen next.
Every crisis is unique, and every family responds to it uniquely. Understanding, identifying, and addressing some of the negative effects that a persistent crisis has on your family’s spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being is crucial. Below are some tips that will help you get your family through a crisis.
- Be Ready For Different Emotional Responses
Each person in your family will respond to the crisis in a particular way. One child might want to be alone and contemplate, while another may have a dozen questions. One family member may experience intense sadness, while another may react angrily. Recognize that every person has a unique need for processing their ideas and emotions. Allow them to do so but remain available to offer assistance.
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That also applies to you. Give yourself the space to experience and process whatever is happening, and stay aware of your emotional needs.
- Identify the Crisis
Any painful scenario requires families to first acknowledge that they are in a crisis. A traumatic event is usually followed by a period of healing in a crisis. However, the trauma is frequently spread out over a long period in an ongoing crisis. A component of the healing process may be entwined with the trauma cycles, and it may intensify over time, becoming progressively worse as it ends or slowly fades.
The strain on family members in this circumstance might go unnoticed and unsolved on a mental, spiritual, and emotional level. Because trauma affects the entire family, its effects may go unnoticed. It could be challenging to recognize stress as a reaction to trauma because it has become the new normal. Parents may become focused on their daily survival and emotional reactions and fail to see their children’s stress. They must acknowledge the presence of trauma in their families, understand its effects, and take appropriate action to alleviate it.
- Addressing Crisis
The emotional, physical, and behavioral reactions to trauma are described by the National Organization for Victim Assistance’s (NOVA) crisis response paradigm. This teaches you that when people are experiencing trauma, they frequently react with shock and astonishment. Regardless of whether the experience begins dramatically, this is true. People who are traumatized find it difficult to acknowledge their condition and may even take extreme measures to downplay or dismiss it. People frequently experience a range of conflicting emotions once the shock passes, including anxiety, fear, wrath, irritation, remorse, and shame.
These reactions may occur in that order, but in the case of a protracted traumatic event, the crisis may develop gradually over time. This implies that the emotional reaction pattern can be repeatedly used, leading to a jumbled array of feelings at any given time.
Parents must be aware of both their emotional state and what their kids may be experiencing. Plus, kids frequently mimic their parents’ feelings. As a result, parents need to be mindful of the words and feelings they use in front of their kids and show them how to handle the current issue healthily.
- Don’t Sound Panicky
Instead of expressing dread and worry, be upbeat. Even though you don’t have to sugarcoat anything, concentrate on what you and your family can do to survive the crisis rather than the unknowable.
Leave room for inquiries. Give them your best and most truthful response. Say things like “that’s a nice question” when you are unable to respond. Make it feel “safe” to communicate. Don’t make fun of or mock worried or confused family members. Make sure everyone feels free to express their doubts and inquiries.
- Connect
Just like wolf packs, families are stronger together. Crisis and hardship can forge stronger relationships between people. While no one wants to face a crisis, this is the time when the family is supposed to shine. To improve your relationship, speak in a way that makes everyone feel like they are “on the same team” and “in it together.” Aim to intentionally spend time together as a family, not just to discuss the situation but also to have fun and laugh. One of the nicest things you can do together is laugh. Laughter is a powerful force for healing.
- Power Through The Grief
Grief follows loss. Each person displays sorrow in their unique way. However, the majority will share the traits of avoidance, irritability, rage, overwhelm, and moving on. These feelings typically arrive in waves and don’t always occur in that sequence. They will become mixed up and difficult to separate throughout a protracted grieving process.
Supporting your family through bereavement is crucial. Unresolved grief, according to specialists, presents significant difficulty for people. Some people may experience serious emotional issues for the rest of their life as a result.
Conclusion
Crises, while horrible, also have a surprising way of bringing our priorities into sharp focus. It takes away everything that was previously overpowering and returns you to the fundamentals of what matters. Crises serve as turning points in our life. Lean into what matters most and embrace the moment rather than letting fear control your behavior.